There are species of crabs that house themselves in discarded shells. We’ve seen some varieties in the pet stores. Others still, will spend time camouflaging themselves with debris from their native habitat. Those are the ones that stick in my mind. Their “fortress” renders them invisible to predators, but can become an unweildy mass. I think this happens to people. We try things on and continue to try new things until eventually we can’t see ourselves under the costumes.
It happened to me recently. I discovered that I am not as big a kink as I thought. Leather life doesn’t really suite me. Sure, I like to give a girl a fair crack in the ass during a romp and I do enjoy a bit of boudoir weirdness. But I can’t see myself decked out in leather as a Dom playing the roles without thinking of who me and my Sub really are. I can’t see any of BDSM games as nothing more than foreplay for sex. It’s fun to tie a girl down and make her squirm with pleasure. In all honesty, though, I don’t need a dungeon and a two-hundred dollar set of leather cuffs to do that. A few well chosen pieces of rope or silk lace will do just fine.What does this have to do with hermit crabs? Well, I have for a long time, labored under the notion that I was some type of leather kink. I am not. I enjoy a few strange things (girls in cowboy hats trip my trigger), but nothing that I think requires a lifestyle change. I am stripping a few things off my shell and in due time I hope to get back to who I am really.
With that in mind, maybe a list a things that I do like:
- Girls (Specifically asians, redheads and brunettes)
- Light kink-a spank on the ass and a little restraint.
- Candles, incensce and several hours
- A bit of porn (my image collection is huge)
- Laughing after an incredible orgasm
- Erotic art and literature
- Feeling connected to my lover.
I think all of that is pretty damn worth while and doesn’t require a lot of make believe or dress-up. I have a feeling a friend is going to receive a few of my favorite things. I know he’ll get more use out of them.
