The dog has caught the car, now what does he do with it? Take it for a drive, of course. But wait a second. The dog has never been in the front seat of a car before, let alone drive the damned thing. What’s a steering wheel? Why do things go flip-flap when he hits a button? And how does he just get the damned thing going? Watching a threesome in a video is kind of like what a dog sees from the passenger seat. Gee, it looks fun, but how the hell does one get this thing going?
A menage a trio must be loaded with anxiety. I have already thought about the anxiety of broaching the question with a lover, broaching the question with a third, and now it’s time to carry this event out. At this point, I am at an even greater loss for ideas. If you wayfaring readers have a thought on this subject, please comment on it. Until then, I have few ideas that could be useful.
Here’s the scenario: My lover, me and our third gather for an evening of food and drink. I expect drink should be involved at least moderately. Let’s face it, inhibition no matter how low sober will still needed to be lowered more. The evening is colored by anticipation and anxiety. It is inevitable, everyone at the table is imaging the others naked and in a variety of positions. And each person is self-scrutinizing deeply. Am I really the type of person to go through with this? What if they don’t think I am attractive enough? What if they get more interested in each other than me? How do we share? Sobriety can only serve to cause undo stress.
I think it might be alleviating and fun to explore the triad in a social setting. Sitting together, holding hands as a group, sharing caresses, passing kisses around, and etc. It can serve to ease the transition. People should not be expected to go from the dining table to the bed without first sampling the tender aspects of trio. It breaks the ice, previews events ahead, and most importantly allows all to gauge internal reactions to having another pair of eyes watching.
A game could be made of this sharing. Grope Twister. All parties gather in a circle facing one another. Left hand on right shoulder. Right hand, left shoulder. Left hand fingers in hair of person to left. Right hand up and down back of person to left. Now switch. Left hand on right cheek of person to left. And so on…How about Round Robin? Each person undoes an article of clothing of the next. Switching directions at the end of the loop. Piece by piece, clothes fall to the floor. Or maybe take turns being the center of a sandwich. Anything to thaw the ice of old inhibitions that are rooted in convention. More important, make the transition from dining to bed flow easily.
Then there is the setting. A big bed I would think would be highly recommended. It’s difficult enough to get two people to sleep in a twin bed. Imagine the blocking required to get three people comfortable. The stage should be expansive. No smaller than full mattress will do. A queen size if possible. This will give all partners a space to spread out and tangle up without requiring advance Yoga positions. Covers are optional. Keep the room comfortably warm and lit. I would think that a few flattering candle lights would be best to illuminate the mixed bag of body types present. We are not all built like porn-stars.
Next, have toys at hand. We would all like to be super-human sexual dynamos, but the reality is that appetites vary like stamina. Not to mention a good toy can keep the less involved of the trio occupied and aroused while play commences among the others. This can prevent bodies as well as libidos from growing cold.Finally, refreshments. Hopefully, after the fires have been stoked and the inhibitions are left on the floor with the clothes, alcohol should no longer be needed. I am a firm believer in full presence of mind during sex. A few tall glasses of water at the ready, however, will prevent dehydration. A few tempting and seductive treats would also be nice to replenish energy. Why should this rare event be stopped due to hunger pangs?
